Remember when we were kids? We used to play outside all day, riding bikes, building forts, playing games we would made up as we went along. We moved… a lot, and we used our imaginations…a lot. When we got home, we would sit down with our families and have dinner together at the dining room table, and talk about what we did during the day, who pushed us down and who made us laugh. Today’s families are different. Today’s families are very busy!

Juggling work, home and community life has created a reliance on technology that has permeated our culture. While adults rely on technology for efficiency in their work and home lives, children rely on technology for play, limiting challenges to their creative mental systems, as well as their physical bodies. This loss of mental creativity, as well as physical exercise, has resulted in a host of children who are neurologically and developmentally delayed, with a variety of mental disorders and attachment difficulties. Diagnoses of Developmental Delay, Learning Disability, Autism, Aspergers, Sensory Processing Disorder, Developmental Coordination Disorder, Anxiety Disorder and Depression amongst children abounds.

As children are connecting more and more to technology, society is seeing a disconnect from themselves, others and nature. A 2004 Kaiser Foundation study showed that elementary aged children use on average 6.5 hours per day of TV and videogames, and over half of North American bedrooms contain TV’s. As little children develop and form their identities, they often are incapable of discerning whether they are the “killing machine” seen on TV and in videogames, or just a shy and lonely little kid in need of a friend. TV and videogame addiction is causing an irreversible worldwide epidemic of mental and physical health disorders, yet we all find excuses to continue. Where 100 years ago we needed to move to survive, we are now under the assumption we need technology to survive. The catch is that technology is killing what we love the most…connection with other human beings. As the dining room table is slowly being replaced by a big screen TV, we are moving into a new age, an age where we will eventually see the disintegration of the family unit.

With the advent of technology we also have time pressures and stress. Cell phones ring constantly, email “bleeps”, Facebook, MySpace and internet dating all require upkeep and maintenance. Studies have shown parents currently spend on average 3.5 minutes per week in meaningful conversation with children. Parents are working more hours now than ever before, often leaving children on their own after school and in the evenings to entertain themselves. Research has shown that if a parent perceives their child’s world is unsafe, their children watch more TV and videogames, yet isn’t this merely a Virtual Safety? While the allure and excitement of technology continues to advance, our children are being enticed into an addiction that we know very little about, and therefore cannot possibly see the future ramifications. What we do know is that TV and videogame use has causal links to increases in ADHD, learning disabilities, sexual promiscuity, addictions, aggression, obesity, and sleep disorders to name a few. Yet parents who have children that are experiencing these issues, are often the parents seen purchasing the next latest and greatest piece of technology for their children, completely unaware of the detrimental impact.

How can we live in a world where we know what’s bad for our children, yet do nothing to help them? It appears that everyone these days, whether it’s adult, child or even a toddler, is pulled into the “Virtual Reality Dream”, where everyone believes that life is something that requires an escape. The Baby Boomers appear to have raised the “Me Generation” of children who are completely incapable of responsible behaviour, or the ability to help themselves. The immediate gratification received from ongoing use of TV and videogame technology, has replaced the desire for human connection. A sad state of affairs indeed. We would rather watch the latest episode of a sitcom, as opposed to asking our child what sort of difficulties they might be experiencing in school, or problems they might be having with their friends.

It’s important to come together as parents, teachers and therapists to help society “wake up” and see the devastating effects technology is having not only on our child’s mental and physical health, but also on their ability to learn and sustain personal and family relationships. While technology is a train that will continually move forward, knowledge regarding its detrimental effects, and action taken toward balancing the use of technology with exercise and family time, will work toward saving our children, as well as
saving our world.

I remember growing up in Texas, we were only allowed to watch 2 hrs of TV a day (3-5pm). We had to go play outside or with our toys. Our parents encouraged us to take things apart and put them back together (as long as it wasn't expensive or too intricate). And I know for a fact that is why we (my bro, sis, and I) have an interest and ability to fix or figure things out. My parents really cultivated our curiosities. My father made me draw pictures everyday during summer vacation. I have nothing but fond memories of all the activities we were involved in and the fun we had squeezing out our creative juices. As time went on, and life changed, for whatever reason, I stopped doing arts and crafts, and just didn't utilize my creative spirit on my own. I had to be inspired by an external force. I think in that time, I also became a little more reclusive. I have always likes people (when I can interact with them face to face especially), but working nightshift for 5 years, I only really socialzed with the people from the hospital at which I worked. I didn't come home much or call much. I had a small group of friends that I would hang out with (and a boyfriend that I tried to spend the majority of my time with). But even that changed as it became easier to seem attached while remaining detached. It really hit me when phone texting became big. Then I really had minimal personal interaction.... it felt strange, yet comfortable.

I'll be the first to admit, it is very hard for me to get too close to people. I like to maintain a comfortable distance usually (note - I am not saying it is right/wrong - it is just what I tend to do). However, I do prefer face to face contact, I think that is why I am not consistent with IM, twitter, blogging, etc. To me, there is a certain sense of understanding and comfort I get from seeing a person's eyes, face, and body gestures express whatever it is they are saying. I love the human interface - the characters and personalities. Quirks and mannerisms that you only really notice in person, really do it for me. My husband has fantastic flamboyant facial and hand gestures when he talks, that just does it for me. My sister is another person who is highly animated; it really tickles me to watch her & hear her explain things or tell stories. So help me, is my worry unfounded, or does anyone elso worry about technology or has anyone noticed how it has changed the way we interact? or how it has effected our ablility to manage face-face situations/relations?